Sir and slut

Anonymous asked: Contributions? I guess you will need contributions when you and your fellow members at FetLife's Reaps Group are served with civil papers. I hope you have the time and money for a lawyer.

Thanks, pal. 

Hi everyone!

We’re still gonna make the video. Since slut signed up for MGF it’s been going pretty well so we’ve been really occupied doing that, and it seems our roommates are always home so there’s very little time to get shit done when we really want to. We’ve placed a little bit of a hiatus on new requests from MGF so it might give us a chance to work through our backlog, but once that stuff is done more S&S content will be on the way. Keep following us, start following slut at her own tumblr (http://littlefoxxx.tumblr.com/) and if you’re feeling especially generous you can always sign up for MGF and give us a look, if you sign up through us we can get referral junk so that’s cool or whatever. (http://www.mygirlfund.com/LittleFoxx)

As far as our D/s relationship goes; we’ve discontinued 24/7 for the time being, we both have way too many responsibilities to make it work for us but we both hope to pick it back up sometime in the future. Things otherwise have been really well, thanks for asking. On the note of asking, also, please don’t forget that we still have our ask box open for whatever kind of questions you’d be curious about, we love answering questions about the lifestyle and trying to help others out in their exploration and it’s been a long time since the ask box lit up, so if you have any questions no matter how trivial please send them in.

Now that I’ve typed this much I might as well keep going. Someone friended us on FetLife whose entire schtick seems to be talking about his ostensibly small penis; he’s got like 5 duplicates of each picture with different photoshop filters applied, and some of them have little comic captions, like his dick is saying stuff. Sometimes life owns.

Anyway, follow us everywhere. For those of you keeping track at home that’s currently;

http://www.mygirlfund.com/LittleFoxx

http://littlefoxxx.tumblr.com/

https://fetlife.com/users/1373388

Welp, that’s about it! Keep on rockin’ in the free world, tumbles.

Sir

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State of affairs

So, this post has taken a pretty long time to write (this page has been open for like, an hour now. I was watching top chef though, so there’s that.) but there are some things to address regarding the future of Sir & slut. It’s probably not as dramatic as you might think, so keep reading.

After a lot of talking between the two of us, we’ve decided to switch some of the focus of the current S&S blog. Some of you may have noticed that slut recently posted a link to her own tumblr, located at http://littlefoxxx.tumblr.com/ . Some of you may have also noticed that she has a link located within that tumblr to her MGF account, which is at http://www.mygirlfund.com/LittleFoxx . See where this is going? (boo, hiss)

Both of us love S&S and we especially love the support and huge amount of followers we’ve managed to gain over our relatively short lifespan, and we have every intent to continue updating S&S, we’ve really enjoyed answering questions sent to our ask and providing some small amount of inspiration and support to others exploring their own BDSM lifestyles.

So, onto the point. S&S is changing. Not by much, but enough. slut has had some experience both with camming and with MGF in the past, and she’s going to start it back up again and we don’t want conflicts between the two. We’re still making our 800 follower video with every intent of posting it, but after that the content being posted here will be changing. We’ll likely make the shift from videos to more photosets, with most of them being geared around videos that we will be producing for MGF in the future. We’ll also be coming up with content and a payment method for people who don’t want to register for MGF. We both enjoy the support and kind words about the two of us, but we also enjoy not being financially destitute college students. By shifting our focus we’ll be able to produce more and better content, as well as simply improving our quality of life.

So really, in the grand scheme of things we won’t be changing much. Our ask box remains open as ever, but we’re expanding what we’ve come to jokingly refer to as the Sir & slut Media Empire, and as such we’re being forced to shift around some things.

If any of you have any questions or whatever else, please feel free to contact us through our ask box, and feel free to visit us at any of the following;

http://littlefoxxx.tumblr.com/

http://www.mygirlfund.com/LittleFoxx

https://fetlife.com/users/1373388

Sir

Slut now has a Tumblr of her very own

and that absolutely does not mean I’ll stop posting here (obviously), but there will be a bunch of other content and whatever on my own Tumblr! I’ve started a new step in my internet life involving being naked baaaaasically all the time and I’m gonna go ahead and expand my ~internet empire~ and document it on Tumblr! I’ll post a good chunk of original stuff that won’t ever be on S&S, but I’ll also be reblogging and other normal Tumblr things. I will also have my ask box open all the time, so feel free to send messages! 

http://littlefoxxx.tumblr.com

It’s empty right now, but I just made it so that will surely not last long :)

slut

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And now, if you’ll permit some seriousness

This post has been a long time coming and I’m sorry we haven’t gotten to it yet; we get a lot of messages from people thanking us for what we’ve done to expose them to a different type of sexuality, and some who have started up new profiles on FetLife or whereever else seeking to explore BDSM themselves. I think that in some ways we represent a somewhat idyllic side of BDSM, we’re in a committed relationship with eachother, we communicate frequently, be it to discuss desires, potential problems, or really whatever else. By no means do either of us want to discourage people from trying it out if they’re curious, but both of us want to make sure that anyone seeking to explore does so safely.

With that in mind, we’ve decided to compile a list of BDSM red flags, these are pretty easy to find off of google and we’ve gone through a few lists to select a comprehensive one from FetLife, though we’d both encourage anyone who’s really interested in getting started with kink to read through a few of them fully, to ensure that they can best protect themselves.

1) Tries to separate you from your friends, family or BDSM community.
2) Avoids talking about personal details. Gets mad when you ask, answers questions with questions, speaks in vague generalities, changes the subject.
3) Has no BDSM references or friends you can talk to.
4) Gets angry when you ask for references or ask around about them.
5) Is inconsistent with details about themselves.
6) Does not give you their home and work phone number at the appropriate time (before physically meeting).
7) Only communicates with you at strange hours and gets mad if you try to contact them at other times.
8) Criticizes the BDSM community and refuses to participate, especially if they met you through that community.
9) Breaks promises (without good reason; or frequently, even with “good” reason).
10) Repeatedly gives excuses for not meeting.
11) Refuses to admit wrongdoing; would rather abandon a friendship than make up for a mistake.
12) Does not take personal responsibility; always puts blame on others for things going wrong.
13) Has bad relationships with most or all of their family members.
14) Uses persuasion, coercion, or scorn to pressure you into doing things you do not want to do.
15) Does not respect your limits, negotiations or contracts.
16) Pushes you into a D/s relationship too fast.
17) Falls in love with you way too fast and swears undying love before even meeting you.
18) Hides behind their D/s authority and says that their authority should not be questioned.
19) Tries to make you feel guilty for not being good enough. Accuses you of not being a “true sub”.
20) Loses control of their emotions in arguments and regresses to yelling, name-calling and blame.
21) Puts you down in front of other people.
22) Turns instantly on their friends, going from best friend to arch enemy at the drop of a hat.
23) Treats you lovingly and respectfully one day and then harshly and accusingly the next.
24) Goes to great lengths to get revenge on people.
25) Lies or withholds information.
26) Will not discuss what your possible future relationship could be like.
27) Impatient with safety measures such as safecalls or meeting in public places.
28) Does not respect your feelings, rights, or opinions. Belittles your intellect.
29) Is impatient or unsympathetic when you express needs or desires.
30) Blames you for your hurt feelings.
31) Abuses alcohol or other drugs; or wants to “scene” when under the influence.
32) Is constantly asking for money from you or others. Requires you to pay his expenses in order for him to visit you.
33) Threatens suicide or other forms of self-harm.
34) Deliberately says or does things that result in getting themselves or others physically or emotionally hurt.
35) Monitors your communications (emails, phone calls, chats) with others.
36) Only interacts with you in a kinky or sexual manner as if role-playing.
37) Will not have normal everyday vanilla conversations.
38) Never shows you their human side. Is emotionless. Hides their vulnerability behind their D/s role.
39) Has multiple online identities for interacting with the same communities.
40) Disappears from communication for days or weeks at a time without explanation.
41) Is rude to public servants such as waitresses, cashiers and cab drivers, or abuses a position of authority by treating subordinates badly.
42) Rarely says thank you, excuse me or I am sorry to anyone.
43) Punishes you when angry. Punishment should be calm and reasoned.
44) Physically hurts you non-consensually.
45) Deals with confrontation by walking out.
46) Is reluctant to discuss a confrontation afterwards.
47) After an argument or confrontation, apologizes profusely with flowers, gifts, etc.
48) Cheats on you; flirts with others in your presence.
49) Is jealous and possessive, confronting others who show an interest in you or accusing you if they believe you are paying attention to someone else.
50) Promises “I’ll never do that again”… and later does it again.
51) Makes sweeping statements like: “A real sub doesn’t have limits”, or “A true Dom never apologizes.”
52) Does not respond as agreed to the use of a safeword. This is abuse.
53) Causes you to use a safeword often. A safeword should only be for “emergencies”.

Obviously many of these apply to online meetings in general, but we felt it important to expose people who might not have the same resources to this kind of information. BDSM can be a very fun experience, or a very shitty one. If you’re going to play, play safe and play smart. We can’t provide all the answers or keep everyone safe, so please just stay careful out there and trust your gut before jumping into anything.

Sir

If you’d like to continue reading some of the red flags and the discussion, the discussion thread is located at https://fetlife.com/groups/3346/group_posts/1181421 . Aaaaaand be sure to friend us at https://fetlife.com/users/1373388 and send a message iffin you feel like it.

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Anonymous asked: Has piercing slut's nipples affected any nipple play in any way? she has one nipple pierced and wants to get her other one, but is worried she won't be able to engage in the use of any clamps or clothespins or such any more, even when they heal. Thank you so much for answering her question.

Well….she already has one nipple pierced, so my biggest suggestion would be to have her test things on that nipple before going to get the other done. As for personal experience, I don’t really do as much nipple play as I did before I got my nips pierced. I used to be all about clothespins but now, even on essentially healed nipples, they’re too painful to be at all enjoyable. Clamps, however, which I didn’t like much before, are much more comfortable on my pierced nips.

But of course it’s important to note that every one is different, so what happened to my boobs may not be what happens to yours or anyone else’s, and the only way you really know anything for certain is to try it.

slut

Anonymous asked: Hello! Just wanted to say that I love your blog :) I just wanted to ask a question; I have recently been officially collared, and Master has stated that I am his only, and that I can play with nobody but him. I'm happy to obey this rule, but with so many other subs getting to play with others, I feel like it's very strange for me not to be shared. Are we doing all this wrong if Master doesn't want to share? Are we 'normal'? Thanks in advance! - Pet

Well first off, thanks, secondly I think it’s best that you just kinda dismiss any ideals of normality, especially within the confines of a BDSM relationship. My dad used to tell me that there were as many religions as there are people in the world, and I believe that that extends beyond religions into sexualities, relationships, and everything else. If you’re going to concentrate on an idealized portrait of what a BDSM relationship should be, you’re only gonna keep yourself forever stuck in this cycle of trying to keep up with your neighbors, as it were.

This isn’t, however, to dismiss your concern. Myself and slut’s relationship found root coming off the wake of an open relationship, but in the context of our own relationship (at least so far) we have been monogamous. We talk from time to time about the idea of having “guest stars” or whatever else, but neither of us seem very motivated to actually do it, and that’s the way we like it.

With your situation, though, I feel like maybe you don’t like that aspect of the relationship, and it’s something you should bring up with your Dom. I’ve written before about how most of BDSM is a pretty elaborate play between two partners, and regardless of whether or not he is your Master or whatever else, open and honest conversation should be an absolute cornerstone of any healthy relationship. If this is something that’s making you unhappy, you owe it to yourself to talk to him about it and try to come to a conclusion, and if that conclusion is one that will leave either or both of you unhappy, you owe it to yourselves to find an arrangement that WILL make you happy. I do hope that you’ll be able to find something that will work out well, best of luck to you both.

Sir

secret-oh asked: You guys are great. I hope you reach your goal soon;) I follow you on two blogs, and happily so. This one is where i dump all the naughty stuff, to be honest you guys inspired me to start it. Keep up the wonderful work, you two! I think you've inspired more people than you can imagine <3 Thank you!

Thanks so much! To be honest it’s still a really weird thing to hear that we’ve inspired things because all we do is fuck and post pictures of it, but it’s still really nice to hear. So, uh, you’re welcome? I guess? But seriously, thanks again.

On a side note; we’ve picked up a few followers but we’re still about 16 away from our goal of 800, keep reblogging and whatnot and we’ll hit it in no time. And, as another reminder, you can send in anon asks again, so if you didn’t trust us enough to answer your questions privately now you don’t even have to worry about such nonsense.

Sir

You’re about 20 away!

Just a reminder to everyone that we’re still doing our forced orgasm/restraint/etc. video once we reach 800 followers, at last glance we were somewhere around 780. Our lives have been a bit busier lately so we haven’t had a lot of chance to take/post new stuff but we should have some free time coming up this weekend to give you guys some extra incentive to push it over the edge!

Also big thanks to the people who have stepped up to write a couple things for sir & slut, we’re still looking for anyone who might have something to contribute in areas we don’t touch on much on the blog, but we should have a few things coming up about knife play, play piercing, and sensation play. We’ve noticed our asks have been slowing down as of late, and to help with that I’ve turned anon asks back on. And, again, if anyone else would like to contribute more to Sir & slut in any way (submissions, articles, whatever) please contact us here or on FetLife at https://fetlife.com/users/1373388

Sir

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Sir & Slut Want YOU!

So some of you might have noticed the ask from earlier today about domination from a female perspective and while we answered it, I’m not exactly female and slut isn’t exactly Dominant, which got us thinking; we really enjoy answering questions for people but there are certain things that neither of us might be qualified or prepared to answer (stuff about Domme work, certain aspects of BDSM we’ve not participated in, ie play piercing or things of that general nature) and we’d really love to be able to field those types of questions, so we’ve decided to turn to you, the reader. Do you have experience Dommeing? Is there anything we haven’t been able to adequately cover that you think you’d be able to do better? Well you’ve got some nerve, you jerk.

Anyway, ignore that last sentence and let us know! We’d love to be able to feature articles and whatever else you might want to share; we’ve been lucky enough to have a lot of followers for whatever reason (it’s all the butt pictures) so you would be sure to have a good amount of exposure, and since neither of us are especially greedy we’ll let you pimp your own tumblr, blogspot, or whatever the hell else.

Anyway, we’d really love to hear from some people who live life on the opposite edge, so if you think this is you please send us an ask or contact us on FetLife so we can set up your exhaustive interview, which is as follows;

Us: YOU LIKE FETISH CRAP OR WHATEVER?

You: YEAH

Us: YOU’RE HIRED

Anyway. Send stuff.

Sir

(here’s our fetlife https://fetlife.com/users/1373388 if you actually recreate that interview with me i’ll let you post whatever the hell you feel like, swear to god.)